Six reasons I don't want my body back


The other day I was at the gym and after noticing my baby bump a man came up to me and said, "it wasn't hard enough to get your body back after your last baby so you decided to take the challenge again, huh?" He meant it as a compliment and I took it as one. Eventually though, that did get me thinking about those terms we see and hear everywhere... "How she got her body back after baby" or "Get your pre-baby body back". The term is used in various ways in fitness magazines about celebrities, for advertisement about weight loss products or even from a postpartum friend on Facebook. The more I think about the idea of getting my body back the more offensive I find it.

1. My body isn't lost. I don't need to find it, or get it back. It is right here, developing and carrying another human being inside of it. Infact my body has never been more obvious and present than it is when I am carrying a child. 

2. Though birth does require a recovery period, it is not an injury or an illness. Birth is a miraculous feat, a personal conquest. I was a warrior. I don't want to diminish that. Pregnancy and birth are both miracles. Yep, I said it. I am one of those who believes it to be a miracle. Why would I consider something a large population of the human race experiences once or multiple times in their life a miracle? Well, to answer that here is the definition of the word according to Mirriam-Webster: 

an extraordinary event manifesting divine intervention in human affairs, an extremely outstanding or unusual event, thing, or accomplishment, a divinely natural phenomenon experienced humanly as the fulfillment of spiritual law


3. It isn't possible. I will never again posses a body that didn't carry my son. Nor will I ever have my body back that didn't carry my daughter. I don't want that body back. Not all women get that opportunity. I would bet those woman would take all the stretch marks, wider hips, and extra pounds in the world to be able to have the experience I have had. 

4. I have more potential than that. My pre-baby body was one I was proud of. I was thin and had decent muscle tone. I worked hard on my physical fitness and nutrition. But there is so much more waiting for me! Personal health is about progression. I want to be the best I can be now. I don't want to revert back to the best I was then.

5. Stretch marks are permanent. Sure, they will fade over time but they will never go away. Go ahead and apply your expensive creams, and do your body wraps. They won't work. I am not ashamed to have an entire belly full of stretch marks and sagging skin. I have thought about getting a tummy tuck in the future. My reason is not because I hate my stretched skin and want to go back to my pre-baby body. My reason would be that I work really hard to get a strong abdomen and it is mostly hidden. If I ever did get a tummy tuck it would be to unveil my hard work over the years, not to turn back time.

6. No amount of exercise will take me back to a pre-birth pelvis. I can lose the fat around my hips or squat myself to a nicer back-side. Those efforts won't be in vain, but no matter how hard I try structurally my body is different than it was before. So what if I will never wear a size 2 again? Mom curves are sexy.

So no, I don't want to get my body back. That body is done and over with, I have been there and done that. There is a body after baby, mine has just yet to be built.